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Thrive! I think this may be my word for 2019!

There’s many things that can come along and stop us living our best lives, that can stop us from thriving. I heard a song this morning, called Thrive by Casting Crowns one I’ve heard many times before and a line from it stopped me in my tracks (well on the bus heading in to work).

“ We know we were made for so much more than ordinary lives. It’s time for us to more than just survive. We were made to thrive.”

Thrive 2

As they say (whoever ‘they’ are), a picture speaks a thousand word, the barren ground just existing, surviving with no signs of life, yet just next to it there is life, vitality and thriving. Now… I’m not saying we should get caught up in comparison by analysing every part of our lives and comparing it to our family/friends/colleagues and wishing we were just like them, comparison is the thief of joy and we can only thrive by being who we truly are.

I guess in some ways this ties in to my recent posts Self-Care and Happy 2019  for each of us thriving will look different… I know for me, I’ve very much been in survival mode for the last 6 months because of gallstones and prior to that I’d not long began to get my spark back after my divorce… these things stopped me from thriving and being who I was meant to be (to an extent because I let them, but also because they are just hard things to deal with, emotional pain and physical pain are exhausting), but… at the start of this year I made a list of things I would like to do and that’s still true… these are things that help me thrive:

Get into a better sleep routine – this has never been something that’s come easy to me, I’ve always been a bit of a night owl, so I do need to try and get better at getting to bed earlier and getting off Social Media before bed.

Spend more time with family and friends – last weekend I go to enjoy a day with my dad and Lorraine before celebrating my cousin’s wedding with the family and this week I have a cuppa and a catch up planned with a long time friend tonight, dinner with a friend from work on Friday and then a trip to Edinburgh to see my old flat mate from university on Saturday.

Play the guitar more (I did this for the first time in ages recently… I was pretty rusty, I’m sure my neighbours were thrilled, I remember how much I love playing music, I miss having an electric piano/keyboard but no space for one at the moment).

Read more – I’ve not quite embraced this as much as I would like but that’s mainly because I find it hard to concentrate for any length of time when I’m in pain. Although I do have Rachel Hollis’ Advanced Reader Copy of Girl Stop Apologizing to make a start on this week so it’s top of my list. This book was gifted to me as I am part of the launch team for Girl Stop Apologizing. #AD-Gift

The book officially launches 5th March. Pre-Order your copy of Girl Stop Apologizing

I have a few books on my reading list at the moment, I just need to actually take the time and read them:

*Anna Newton – An Edited Life


I made a start on this book after it launched but have still to finish it… all the Marie Kondo TV shows over Christmas inspired me and I cleared out some things and listed them on Ebay and then that’s as far as things went… life got busy, so I need to make some time and read this book, I love the conversational way it is written, like it’s written by a friend.

Get rid of the stuff that’s been holding me back… both in the physicl sense of editing my wardrobe and having a regular clear out of clothes that don’t fit. I find that I due to my weight changing so much at the moment, I have to do it every month or so. I had held on to a few dresses thinking I would wear them when I lost weight… I didn’t and now they are too big and also not my style anymore, so they are in a bag ready to be photographed and listed on Ebay/Depop. It’s quite cathartic letting go of things that I associate with an old season of my life and being able to invest in new styles that suit me now as I rediscover who I am and regain my confidence.

*Michelle Obama – Becoming

I’ve downloaded this on my Kindle App to read but haven’t had a chance, or should I say I haven’t made it a priority… it’s been recommended by so many people, so I’m looking forward to reading it… sometime… soon!

Maybe part of this letting go of the past in order to thrive means looking ahead and making some plans for the future… maybe for me it means looking for a new challenge whether that’s work related or maybe something else. I need to be more intentional about setting some goals and working towards them so that I can thrive.

There’s a few dreams have that I would love to do, I just have to save some money and work towards it (that will no doubt involve some training)… it just so happens that one of them has something to do with the Maya Angelou quote… fashion and style may seem trivial to many people but it’s often where I find joy and an element of confidence (not that I am defined by fashion, I know my self worth is more than style or status or education etc)… creating an outfit and lately trying new things is fun. I guess it’s where I thrive, but more than that, I love helping others find that spark of joy in their style too and a renewed sense of confidence as they discover/rediscover their style.

What are your top tips for thriving? Feel free to share all the things.

Hope you’re having a great week.

Gill x






One thought

  1. Gill, such a good post, I enjoyed reading this and I love your word for year. I’m actually borrowing it as I need to apply it in some areas if my life where I’ve been slack, one of those being sorting out a stylish closet for myself. I live in my uniform basically and for years now I’ve not had a closet to display some gorgeous feminine outfits, I can’t wait to do that this year.

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