Recently I got to hear Rachel Hollis, founder of the Chic Site and New York Times best selling author of Girl Wash Your Face speak when I went to her book signing in Birmingham. She is incredible. Such an inspiration… at only a year older than me, it would be easy to get caught up in comparison at all the things that Rachel has: a great husband, the cutest kids, a successful media company, a growing Social Media following (all of which she works hard at… yes relationships take work too). Her life is amazing (if you’ve read her book, you’ll know it’s also had it’s challenges) and I’m so grateful that she has shared her heart on paper and through social media and that we have crossed paths.
Something I learned a good few years ago through a great friend, and have been reminded of recently by Rachel is that comparison is the thief of joy. I try not to compare myself to people. It doesn’t always work, but for the most part, there’s no point. You do you and I’ll do me and that’s just fine! We’re all on a different journey different passions and purpose.
This leads on to one of the questions Rachel got us to think about…
What are your passions and how do you do you find them?
This is something I’ve been thinking a lot about lately as it was part of a sermon at church recently too.
Often we forget what our passions are and let other things take priority. We all have things we love and gave ourselves permission to enjoy but at some-point we partner up with the lie that to be a good woman we must show up for other people at the expense of ourselves. This is often (though not always) the case for those with kids. I understand that family is important and that when you have children they become your life, but it’s still important to carve out some time for you to do what you’re passionate about (whatever that looks like).
Did you grow up doing something you lived?
Netball, dancing, drama, musical theatre, playing an instrument, ice skating etc.?
Often we love to do things that bring us into community and give us the opportunity to perform in some way.
If you feel like you’ve lost your passion, look for something that brings you into community and celebrates you (and other people) in some way.
Somewhere along the line, you used to love something and couldn’t make a living out of it so stopped doing it! If something makes you happy, it doesn’t matter if it makes sense to anybody else.
That’s part of the reason I started working with Stella & Dot 5 years ago. Yes I loved the jewellery (and now the clothes too), but more than that, I love the community of women I’ve met and the friends I’ve made along the way.
A few key things that Rachel said that really resonated with me:
You’re called for something more, you have potential within you…
What If I?…
What If? is one of the most powerful questions you can ask!
If you have a what if? that is your potential begging you to get out of your own way.
Tomorrow is not a guarantee, your life is passing you by.
Are you disappointed by the things that you haven’t done this year?
Become the person you want to be… don’t let your life pass you by. Be intentional. The only thing worse than quitting is wishing that you hadn’t… the time will pass anyway. Your desire doesn’t go away because it gets hard, stick with it… sometimes our passions and purpose lead us on a long road.
After a couple of years of losing sight of who I am and not pursuing my passions or purpose, I’ve decided that in the last few months of this year, that I am going to take some time to work out my why… Why am I here? What am I passionate about? What is my purpose? All big questions but ones worth answering.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on passion and purpose and how you take time to work out your why/what your passions and purpose are? Please feel free to comment below or drop me an email.
Hope you have a great weekend.