If you’ve seen my Instagram feed lately, you’ll know I’m a fan of this book. Rachel Hollis (the author) and founder of The Chic Site , Rachel Hollis inspires many women to rise up and pursue their dreams and greatness, whatever that looks like for them. I’ve been following Rachel on The Chic Site and Social Media for a few years since I had seen a photo of her wearing a bracelet stack each with a different meaning (and as a girl who lived her jewellery, was immediately drawn to her). Have a wee read about the significance of Rach’s Bracelets
In her book, Girl Wash Your Face, Rachel’s no holds barred approach encourages us to prioritise ourselves and set aside the time to unpack the lies that so often hold us captive and stop us moving forward in our lives so that we can be better than the person we were yesterday. Each chapter starts with a lie that Rachel believed and end with three things that helped her… Written with the kindness and compassion and brutal honesty of a friend.
This book has it all, from her young ideals of marrying Matt Damon, to her own romantic story of how she pursued her career, met and fell in love with her husband to family life and their journey from fostering to adopting their gorgeous daughter.
Two key chapters for me were:
Chapter 3. The Lie: I’m Not Good Enough
Over the years, I let the lie that I wasn’t good enough take root… now, as a child, I was loved by my family, but somewhere along the way, I began to compare myself to others: friends who were cleverer or prettier, I didn’t match up to what I saw in magazines or TV, I didn’t get the grades I wanted to go to university at the end of 5th year at school (I got them in 6th year)… so I decided that I wasn’t good enough. I got to university and met some amazing friends who studied all sorts of courses, they were intelligent, beautiful (again, I didn’t match up), but I knew I could work hard and get a degree. I started doing teaching and hated it, so changed course to Theology and I loved it, I wasn’t nearly as academic or driven as the rest of my classmates, but I got my degree (and only recently did I actually look at what my exam results were and they’re better than what I remember, yet I always thought I wasn’t as good as my peers and only scraped by)… now I look back and I’m proud of my degree, I should have been all along. I may not have had a conventional career journey, lots of temp jobs, some I’ve loved, some I’ve hated but all too often, I’ve not felt good enough.
For those of you who know me or have met me in person, you may have noticed a bracelet I wear almost every day. Yes it’s a Stella & Dot one (so I do get paid to wear and share it), but it’s more than that, it’s a Bespoke bracelet that is engraved with the phrase #IAMENOUGH as a constant reminder that I am enough, not because of my parents or my upbringing, my education or my job. Not because of my weight, the clothes I wear or what I look like, but I am enough because of who I am as a person.
Chapter 15. The Lie: I Will Never Get Past This
Rachel is real! She talks about some significant trauma in her life and how she got through it.
I love the reference she makes to Tony Robin’s documentary where he said “If you’re going to blame your hard times for all the things that are wrong in your life, you better also blame them for the good stuff too.”
I’d never thought about life like that before… I have experienced some significant traumatic experiences in my life (there have been others, but this is the main one). My mum passed away when I was 13, she battled cancer for 6 months, it was traumatic to see her so poorly and not be able to do anything to help… but my mum was one of the most incredible people I had the privilege to know, she lit up any room and put others first, even when she was ill. She was always singing or playing piano and loved musicals. I guess that’s partly where I get my love of music from… I definitely get my love of rock from my dad though…
At 13, I didn’t think I’d ever get past the grief and loss, but over the years, I eventually got to a point where I decided that living in survival mode wasn’t living at all and it’s not what my mum would have wanted for me. I think this process started at University and has been a journey through my 20s until now, my mid 30s as I have grasped a greater sense of who I am and the kind of person I want to be. Recently, after spending pretty much a year and a half in hiding due to a particularly difficult situation, I began to remember who I was and that #IAMENOUGH, that I can be creative and that I am made for more, created to thrive and it’s time to dare to dream.
This book will make you laugh and cry, especially as you examine your own life and think about the lies you believe and start to dismantle them. If you have ever believed a lie about yourself (and I’m assuming that’s most women), then I would definitely recommend reading this book. I’m reading it for the second time and getting things out of it that I missed the first time because I was in a different season when I read it.
If you’ve read the book, I’d love to hear what you thought of it, please comment below. I hope you loved it as much as I did.
If you haven’t read it yet, whether you take it on holiday with you this summer or read it during your lunch breaks at work or on the commute… it really is worth it! I promise you won’t regret it. Happy reading!